How to Help Your Kids Understand Divorce

Divorce is a complicated process. To a child, it may even seem overwhelming or incomprehensible. As such, it’s your responsibility as a parent to speak with your children about how, when, and why these things are happening.

Below, we discuss some tips for talking to your child about divorce.

Know What You’re Going to Say

Do not wing this conversation. Make sure you prepare what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it before speaking with your child. It’s important for your child to see that you are confident and knowledgeable about what’s going on and why it’s happening. Otherwise, the child may become even more confused and emotional about the situation.

Present a United Front

Even if you are not getting along with your soon-to-be-ex, it’s important that this conflict not be communicated to your child. Keep in mind that your spouse is also this child’s parent or stepparent, and speaking poorly about your spouse in front of your child will only confuse and hurt them.

Make sure you and your soon-to-be-ex discuss how you’re going to break the news to your child and make sure your stories match up. Otherwise, the child’s trust in one parent or another may erode.

Be Supportive

Your child looks to you for comfort and guidance. Make sure you leave enough room in the conversation for your child to express how they feel about the divorce, and answer their questions with honesty and patience. Tell your child they are loved by both of their parents, and that they will be fully supported throughout this process.

Considering Divorce? Contact Us Today

If you would like to end your marriage but you’re not sure how to begin, our team at Pearson Butler is here to help. We take a unique approach to each family law and divorce case we take on, and work with you to develop a solution tailored to your unique needs.

Contact Pearson Butler today at (800) 265-2314 to schedule a consultation.